Cloud backs it up with some studies, research, and great stories. We’ve all heard the Einstein quote about insanity – trying to get different results by doing the same thing. They have to finally realize that doing the same thing again (or still) is not going to get any different results. Cloud is talking about is that sometimes for a person to change ineffective behaviors they are stuck on, they have to reach a point of hopelessness. Hopelessness a virtue? How is that possible? The irony intrigued me, but once I understood, it made perfect sense. And I’m one of the most optimistic, hopeful people I know. If something isn’t working, you must admit that what you are doing to get it to work is hopeless." - Necessary Endings, page 74 The Lifesaving Virtue of Hopelessness "If you are looking for the formula that can get you motivated and fearless, here it is: you must finally see reality for what it is – in other words, that what is not working is not going to magically begin working. Understanding how and what to prune will allow new growth to flourish. This concept can apply at all levels in your life, from trimming unnecessary agenda items of a meeting, to helping a spouse overcome an addiction. Use the three categories as guidelines, but also, just as you shape a tree or rose bush by cutting off good branches that are going in the wrong direction, you will need to end some activities or habits that are not getting you to where you want to go. Then, no matter how painful it might be, or worthwhile the effort is, you must prune. A clear vision of the outcome of what you want your life, or business, to be like is vital to knowing what is unnecessary. The first question to ask is: What does a good rose bush look like? We must know what we are pruning toward. But how do you decide which good things you need to drop? Overindulgence, even in good things, breeds mediocrity. You can’t have everything (where would you put it?) and, by the same token, you can’t do everything, or else you won’t be exceptional at anything.
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Your resources are limited, whether it’s time, energy, or money, and applying them in the most effective direction is the only way to reach your full potential. Dead branches that are taking up space needed for the healthy ones to thrive (something that is clearly already dead.).Sick branches (or endeavors) that are not going to get well, and.Healthy buds or branches that are not the best ones (a good initiative, but one that is siphoning off resources that could go to something with more promise.).Items to be removed fall into three categories: Cloud clearly demonstrates how important removing the superfluous is to our fulfillment. We all know that a beautiful rose bush with large billowing flowers doesn’t get that way without a caring gardener trimming off many buds and branches. Pruning "Removing whatever it is in our business or life whose reach is unwanted or superfluous." - Necessary Endings, page 18 Cloud teaches in this insightful and immediately practical book. Of course, the circle of life might make sense at a high level when studying biology and nature, but how does it apply to the specific situations in my life that keep me stuck and prevent real change and growth? Henry Cloud will change your life, mainly because you will see change differently, and some major, deep rooted beliefs will be jiggled loose, and pulled right out. That experience was just a small scale of nature’s regular seasons of life: stuff dies, and new things are born.Īnd I’m going to try and make your little ending worth it, because applying the principles in Necessary Endings by Dr. It might have been a very good thing too, but it had to go in order for you to do something new. What ever you were doing just now had to end in order for you to read this summary. "Being alive requires that we sometimes kill off things in which we were once invested, uproot what we previously nurtured, and tear down what we built for an earlier time." - Necessary Endings, page 8
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